Girls and Relationships perhaps Pt.1

Ok, so unknownuser and I were talking about.... unknownuser's relationships because he didn't update me at all on anything.

Disclaimer: Post is just me, it's not absolute. Not meant to offend anyone. I won't do this justice because my thoughts are unorganized.

Now i'm just sleepy. Don't know if i want to do this anymore. I will try to go over everything generally and details will come later either in post form or actually talking face to face.
So let's start off with a bit of an intro. University. How it has changed me... lol, i hope. Reflecting on my life here and there has me concluding about a few things. The three most important things in my life right now is Christianity, Aikido, and Anime. I'm pretty sure I posted that part already. (btw, i bought a bokken today. very awesome).

Ever since coming to university, going to fellowship on campus, I think I've matured more in my faith. (I promise this will lead to girls). A lot of people could say they are Christians without being actual Christians. Looking back at my life, I don't think a lot of it has been very Christian like. I won't deny it, I've done some bad things in my life. But so has everyone else. The important thing is to change. I felt that I had to go back to the very beginning. As we do in every class in aikido, we do the basic movements. The movements that are basically the foundational movements of the techniques that I'll be learning throughout my life. In the same way, if i don't have a strong foundation in my faith, I won't be as strong when it comes to everything else. So my life this year has been "Back to Basics: Passion for Passion". I know, i selected an awesome motto/theme for my year. Basically, the very foundation of Christianity is just loving God with all your heart, mind and soul. God loves us and so when we love God too and establish that relationship, everything else will follow. Love, it's tough, but once u know what it is in your heart, everything just turns out fantastic.

Ok, sorry, had to get through that. If you have more questions, i would love to answer. But right now, girls. So that paragraph did have a purpose!!!
Because I'm trying to become more serious about my life, I want someone who is serious about theirs. Not serious as in "no fun at all" serious. But serious enough to make the most of their lives and live for what's important. I would like a girl who has the same interests as me. They may not do aikido or watch anime, but at the very least they should be a Christian. After coming to western, I've met a lot of drunken girls, tipsy girls (after knowing what tipsy meant), and i've also met girls who just loved God. This post isn't meant to offend anyone by the way, this is just my point of view. But the girls who are authentically in love with God were not just great and fun-loving in a period of time, but they're great and fun all the time, even when they're serious. It's hard to explain.
Drinking a few beers or whtever is great, but there are limits (i don't remember where i was going with this). I don't want to ramble on so i'll just get to the meat of this coz i need to shower and play with my bokken. If I were to date someone, I would date with a purpose. What is the purpose of dating? That it will eventually lead to marriage. Maybe even have a few kids. When I look at a girl and I'm thinking of possibly dating her, I would always ask "would i marry her? could I live with her all my life?"
It doesn't sound fun, but i think there's a time and place in a relationship for fun, and a time and place to be serious.
So, the first girl. Won't say the name coz it's a public blog. She is a fantastic person! always happy, I enjoy her company. She's so great in fact that I think she's out of my league. It'd be great to be with her, but I'm not at the same spiritual level as her. I'm learning a lot form her, but i think as a man, I should be stronger.
Everyone has different views. I'm not saying this is how it's suppose to be, but it's how i would prefer it to be. It's different for different people in different situations. So it's complicated. You would have to be able to discern for yourself about what you want to do with that particular person in a particular situation.
There are two other girls who are also great christian girls that i've met at western. But i'm just trying to establish a good friendship first. And if i feel a tug saying "do it" and it's not from unknownuser, then i will. (not from drakonen either) I think friendship is important first because that's how you know the real them without getting too messy.
Also, another rule that I placed for myself is asking the girl's parents first before I date her. And also ask what the girl thinks too. Relationships require two people. You don't want to forget about the girl's feelings. But parents have also invested a lot of their time, effort, and energy into bringing their child up. You can't just take their child away from them without asking them first. A good analogy i liked was if you had a mad awesome car. Whatever great car you saw or didn't see at the autoshow. So you have it in your driveway and a boy you don't even know asks if he could drive it. What would you say? No right? Isn't a daughter's life more important than a car? Know the parents and ask for their permission. I'm generally shy. So if i do ever conjure up the courage to go to the parents, i'll know the girl is worth it. Just my general rule.

Ok, i think i'll end this portion up. Bye