Girls and Relationships Pt.2: “Love is…”

Yo… I should so be studying. I WILL study after this post. That’s right, you just saw my mental power at work there. Impressed? We’ll see what happens after this post…

Nothing specific here about this post so if you’re looking for dirt, there ain’t any so you can just leave and go study.

I don’t usually post anything that may be thought of as “spiritual” here because I think it might get annoying and make people feel uncomfortable which I don’t like to do despite popular belief that I do like to make awkward moments… which I do… just not this type of awkward. But, it’s a topic that is relatively known to everyone so I feel like I can just put a glimpse of my most recent thoughts on it. Love….dating… marriage… so complicated!!! Let’s have some funnnn…

Most people knows or knows of the quote I’m about to ctrl-v on this post. Usually said at weddings? I’m pretty sure everyone has heard it in movies.

1 Corinthians 13: 4-8
Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. Love never fails.

You know about it… but you never really think about it. Or at least I don’t really think about it. I don’t just hear it and zone out and start thinking about it… although I could… but then I’d miss a part of the movie or the wedding and that’s not kool. I’m not gonna go too into it because I do have to study… prolly take a shower first and then… laundry… and then study. BUT I WILL STUDY. Anyways, back on track.

I see dating as a path to marriage. You don’t date and not plan to get married. Using a metaphor I read from a book called “I kissed dating goodbye” it would be like climbing up a mountain with a partner who suddenly decides they’re not really sure they want the responsibility of holding your rope while you’re 2000 ft up a mountain (Harris, 28). <-I am so doing that for fun. So before you dive into a relationship, a few things cross my mind.
1. Am I able to place her needs before my own? Or take care of her as if she were of my own flesh? It’s not about what you can get, but what you can give

2. Will i be able to forgive her if she has wronged me, work things out, and keep no grudges?

3. Will I be able to guard her heart and keep her pure in mind and body? Protect her life as if my life depended on it? Dating and marriage are separate things. We shouldn’t introduce important elements of marriage into a dating relationship if we do not have the level of commitment to go through with it. There is a certain level of intimacy that comes with the level of commitment.

4. Will I be able to open myself, get vulnerable, and trust her with my own life? and am I responsible and reliable enough to receive her trust?

5. Will I be able to stay positive, keeping hope alive in situations where it may seem utterly hopeless?

6. Will I be able to endure hardships and be able to overcome them? When times get tough, will I stay faithful and continue to support her?

A lot of the ideas are connected. Enduring and being patient. Gaining trust and protecting that trust. It seems pretty niiice if you do experience this type of love. The really nice thing is, there is no such thing as “love fail” and if it does seem to fail, it’s not the love, it’s probably a “you fail”.

Meh… semi-spiritual but whtever. Just been on my mind and thought I’d share something that had some depth to it unlike my other posts. This is just maybe 30-40% of what goes on in my head.
Love is hard yo. Are you ready for it?

Peace out…

… did i really say “peace out”? dang…

-Additional Thoughts/Edit in Green.-

Apparently I had a part 1 back in April of 2008… so I post the second part a year later.